Why It’s Okay To Be Alone, It Doesn’t Mean I’m Lonely

Why It’s Okay To Be Alone, It Doesn’t Mean I’m Lonely

Living on my own, people often ask me “don’t you get lonely being all by yourself” and my answer is simple – no! Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that you are lonely, I have learnt over the years to love my own company. I can do what I want when I want and how I want!

Yes, there are days when I wish that I had someone to share stuff with and there are definitely days when I would love for someone else to cook dinner for a change (I mean it would really save me money on takeaways…!)But overall, I am happy that I live on my own!

Becoming a student has definitely changed my attitudes on that! As many of you will know, it can be stressful as hell living with other people, especially ones that are messy, noisy or even anti-social (we’ve all probably been one of these one time or another). In my first year of uni, I lived in halls and let’s just say it was an experience… The first week is always the best. You think you’re going to become besties, take it in turns to cook and everyone is really polite. Then by the end of the year, there has been a lot of arguments over shelf space in the fridge and many more arguments about doing the washing up! You can’t wait to be free and have your own space (minus the passive/aggressive notes being left everywhere about who’s turn it is to take out the bins – FYI I’d always end up doing it anyway).

I’m still at uni but I live in a studio flat so I don’t have to share a kitchen or bathroom with anyone – yaay! I like that I can come home from lectures and nap without being judged! Or not worry that I’ve spent ages cooking a meal for it to turn out crap but eat it anyway because I wasted so much time and effort on it (embarrassingly, this happens a lot… hence the dent in my bank account from takeaways)! I can also binge-watch a Netflix series without having to wait to watch it with someone!

2018 is the year of self-love, and loving your own company is an important part of that! Just remember, you may be on your own but that doesn’t mean that you are lonely. Surround yourself with people that make you happy! Of course, I’d love to have someone to share my life with but right now I’m content with where I am, and who knows what the future may bring… (Oh please let him be a good cook!)



p.s. do you live on your own or share with someone?




  1. Alice February 12, 2018 / 7:43 pm

    Aww I love this, good for you girl! It is such a common misconception that alone means lonely. Although I don’t live alone I do spend a hell of a lot of time on my own and its quite rare that I feel lonely too! I’m glad you’ve found a good balance and peace with spending time alone 🙂
    Alice Xx

  2. Leslie February 13, 2018 / 5:50 am

    Yes!! Love love this post! I always dealt with struggling about my own company but honestly I would prefer to take care of myself on my own sometimes.

  3. Lily February 13, 2018 / 9:41 am

    I’m in my third year of uni and have always lived with others. I feel a studio flat would’ve been perfect but also like being able to escape from my room and just socialise whenever I need to, it somehow keeps me sane haha x

    Lily | Covet Luxe

  4. Anu February 13, 2018 / 10:29 pm

    I live with my parents but since I’m in online school and they work quite long hours I’m alone at home a lot and I love it! Me and my sister used to share a bathroom when she lived at home and now when she comes to visit she does small things – like misplacing my tweezers – that annoy me so much because I’m used to things being a certain way. In the future, I’d definitely like to live by myself or at least have my own bathroom and the roommate should be understanding and able to share house chores 🙂 x

    Anu | Based On blog

  5. Alice February 15, 2018 / 11:08 am

    I’d love to live in a studio flat! I think I’d love the time to myself, what you said about halls is so true. When I was in halls, there was so much arguing with the other people on my landing because I was the clean one and the others were super lazy. At least when you’re on your own, it’s only your own mess to clean! x

    Alice | http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

  6. Chloe February 16, 2018 / 1:37 pm

    I’m so glad you’re loving living on your own, I still live with my parents and I have a partner so I will probably never get a place on my own but I know if I did I would love it too! xx


  7. Gemma February 18, 2018 / 8:50 am

    I agree completely with this! I think I’m a similar character to you, meaning everything has to be clean and today. I hate it when it’s not, at the moment I am living with my nan, uncle and partner. Definitely has its struggles but what doesn’t! I am excited on the prospect of moving out with him.

    Gemma | http://www.anoceanglimmer.wordpress.com

  8. Emily February 24, 2018 / 7:48 pm

    I love this! I’m terrible at living alone as I always need someone to chat too-but on the other hand I do love being able to do whatever I want whenever! I think living alone you get the best of both worlds you have a white place to go home to but you can enough company when you go out!



  9. Julia February 27, 2018 / 3:32 pm

    You’re so lucky! Oh what I would give to move out again. I never lived on my own, I always either rented a room, lived with my family or did a house share with other students. It can be such a pain! Sure it’s nice to have people to talk to every now and then but I find it such a shame that I will never live on my own because my next step will be living out with my boyfriend. Enjoy every second of it!

    Julia xx

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